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 This One's On Marriage
Since we are about to celebrate our 60th wedding anniversary, it seemed only fitting to do this one on marriage. I am not an expert on the subject, just experienced. Please, let's not get the idea because we have been married this many years that we are a coupla old people shuffling around helping push each others walkers....not so!! We live on 102 acres of land and my husband has cattle and horses. About two years ago we completely restored a 1966 Mustang and at present are about to complete a 1959 Ford PU with a 1940 Ford convertible waiting in the wings to be restored...so see. When we married in 1947, we were young, broke and in love..now we are older, not as broke and still in love. Marriage is like building a house. It has to have a good foundation, or it's sure to crumble. We have a deep faith in our Lord Jesus.
We moved to South Texas a few months after we married, and Leland started working for an oil company. We didn't have a car, so the crew picked him up for work. It didn't bother me that I couldn't drive until we got a car. Then I started nagging him to teach me to drive. I must say if your marriage can survive your husband teaching you to drive, that is a definite plus. Guess old habits are hard to break - he still instructs me when I am driving! Just kidding honey, (I don't mind) I am sure he must have worried what he had gotten into.
Also, we had to learn on our own that it's much less concern if you can make your money stretch from one paycheck to the next. Well, in those day's we didn't worry too much, we just sold coke bottles to go to the movies and rode the cab home on the credit.
Reality set in when we had our first child. A wonderful son,19 months and 1 day later a beautiful daughter then six years later another wonderful son. Reality was here to stay.
We wanted to settle down and give those children some roots, so in 1959 we bought this acreage.
We just knew if we bought every animal that God had created , we would get rich on at least one of them. That's what the figures showed on paper. Not so. No matter how much you love each other arguments do happen. I remember one morning after the kiddos were off to school, I was in the barn tending the 500 chicks we had bought. Leland came in from working all night and was very tired, so was I. Well an argument developed and the next thing I knew I was on a five gallon bucket getting eye level with my 6ft+ husband. He laughed and asked me if I thought that made me any bigger. It always helps if one of you have a sense of humor. See, I don't remember what started the argument, just the laughter we shared later. We had silly arguments before and still do sometime. Just don't let them get out of control.
God gave each of us a role in life. The husband's is to be the head of the house. This does not mean he is the boss or that you are not equal to him.There are always decisions to be made and many times you and your husband will have differences of opinions about those decisions.When this happens in our home, I honestly feel we should go with his. Most of the time it was right, but if not we do not play the "I told you so " game. Of course, he wants what is best for his family and does what he feels is the right thing at the time. Ephesians 5:32 explains our roles very well.
God bless each of you.
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